Most people are at a loss for words when it comes to comforting someone who is grieving.
How-to express your sympathy:
Simple, brief expressions of sympathy are usually best. While most people find themselves at a loss for words, the family will appreciate a sincere expression of condolence-however brief. Kind words are always welcome. Follow the lead of the family member. If they want to talk about the deceased, lend an ear and a few minutes of your time. Being a good listener may be the best solace you can provide for them.
If you don’t know what to say, start with these thoughts:
- You’re so sorry to hear this sad news.
- The deceased will be sorely missed by friends and colleagues.
- How much you loved this person and how bereaved you feel.
- You know how much the deceased loved and cared for the people who are left behind.
- The grief you feel for the person who is left behind.
- What a wonderful person the deceased was.
Recounting anecdotes, warm remembrances, and stories about the deceased is a kind thing to do. Remembering the person’s accomplishments and all that person meant to you and did for you, and sharing that with the family, is very important and much appreciated.