In the digital age, many people have turned to ‘digital grieving’ as a way to continue the conversation about the person they loved
One example of a family sharing their grief online comes from the Guardian UK who told the story of one dying mother, Lucy Worthington, who wrote an instruction manual for her husband on how to raise their daughters.
“Lucy wasn’t able to finish the book,” Mark said, so her oldest daughter, Emily (13) vowed to finish the guide by filling it with lessons she learned from her mother. “Emily wants to make sure her sisters never forget.”
“When Lucy knew her life was ending, she said ‘make sure the girls know I fought as long as I could,” Mark said. “Every new treatment she tried just to have as long as she could with them. She wrote the book so the girls understand she’s in a better place now.”
The mother-daughter penned guide includes advice on everything from puberty to head lice and provides space for the family to remember their mother. “She wanted to make memory boxes for the girls and got them started, now it’s up to us to fill them with memories.”
Emma Howard of the Guardian UK wrote a follow-up story on Lucy that examines the purpose of digital grief – is it over sharing? Emma, who lost her mother to cancer, explains how grieving online helps people cope with loss.
“Grief does funny things to the mind,” Emma wrote. “When a person you love is sick, friends ask about them, but as soon as they die, the questions stop. My mother became a topic carefully avoided at dinner tables.” Emma believes, “Sharing your grief (online) is more than an act of remembrance – it’s an invitation to ask.”
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